Do your children “live” where they live?

I’m curious how many people allow their children to actually live in their home.

If you come to my house, you will quickly realize that it isn’t spotless. I ask that you be understanding and see that I would rather lay in Chances’ floor reading books with him or CG’s room playing dolls. I grew up where everything had a place and you kept it all together, all the time. My kids? Well, by now you can probably guess that I’m a little more relaxed in that department. Sometimes, I just like to sit and watch them play. Wherever it may be.

If you can’t accept that two little people live here and share their toys with everyone, scattering them through the house, you wouldn’t make good company for us.

Why is it that the kitchen is the one place that can be cleaned 10 times a day and still be dirty? I am 90% finished cleaning our house yet random dishes make their way to the sink and clutter seems to migrate to the kitchen table. Where is it coming from???? I love a clean house, but I absolutely detest giving up time with my kids to clean it!

Legos, doll clothes, and puzzle pieces are among the most popular items this week. It can be challenging finding the balance between allowing your children to play freely and creating boundaries.

Children have their entire lives to have someone stand over them and dictate. I believe in cleanliness and teaching them to cleanup but this is their house. This is their home and they have the right to enjoy it like everyone else. I don’t tell my husband to play games on his phone in our room and practice his “duck calling” in his shed. He doesn’t tell me to read my kindle in our room so why should I confine our children to theirs?

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Yesterday’s role in today’s society.

Call me old fashioned, but I believe a marriage is made for two people and two people only. I know there are some woman out there who aren’t going to like what I’m about to say, but I think a woman and a man have their own place in a marriage. Yes, I think there are roles we should live by. I’m not saying he should be egotistical and control everything. I am however saying that I believe the divorce rate is so high these days because men don’t feel like men and woman aren’t treated like woman.

Note: My beliefs do not have to be the same as yours. We can agree to disagree.

I personally enjoy going home after work, cooking dinner, fixing plates, and serving my husband and children. They all appreciate it, and truthfully it’s much easier. I genuinely enjoy being the glue in our family. I believe that is my purpose. My husband and children give me purpose. Don’t get me wrong, I am still entitled to be who I choose outside of being a mother, but If I had to choose, I’d be wife and mother anyway.

You would have to understand my upbringing and the woman of influence in my life. All sharing the same beliefs as me. I believe a man should work, take are of his family, and treat his wife like the lady she is. He should be the head of household, in all aspects. As a woman I believe it is my job, my right as a wife and mother to take care of my children and the home we’ve created. Now again, some people are surely rolling theirs eyes and turning red in the face. This is my choice. Not yours.

I think men should be treated like men. They should have dinner prepared by a wife that is more than happy to dote on them. I keep seeing blog after blog, article after article about how to “spice up” your marriage. Well let me just throw this out there and get it out of the way. When you’re having problems on the home front with just two people, the last thing you need to do is add another person to the equation. “Two’s a party, three’s a crowd.” I believe marriage was made for is two people. What you do, and who you do it with should be your spouse.

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That word seems to be thrown around an awful lot lately. Excuse me, but I thought it was pretty much common sense that when two people marry it was for until death do we part. It’s in the fine print, and it’s in your vows. I just don’t understand how people throw their marriage around like a designer handbag. Only to discard it when it’s out of season. People say the divorce rate is so high for many different reasons, I laugh every time I hear “they don’t make love like the used to“. They never made love to begin with. People create it. Each of us, and for the love of me I can’t seem to grasp how you quite loving someone. You either still do or never truly did.

To divorce someone simply because you don’t love them, is as silly as marrying them because you do.

Think about it. Let that sink in. Exactly. People need to get off the high horse, and get back into the marriage. Stop allowing what is currently “socially acceptable” to control your life. You give the respect you want in return. Prove to your spouse and yourself that you are in this marriage for the long haul and for the right reasons. One day, you’ll be old and grey (if you don’t use Clairol) sitting in your rocking chair by the person who spoke the same vows as you. Still fully committed to you. Time will pass, looks will fade, and feelings will change, but as long as you give your marriage and home the attention it needs, it will continue to blossom and I can assure you, there is no greater accomplishment than a successful, lifelong partnership. A marriage that leaves behind a legacy.