Marriage over Media (part 2)

It is not your job to speak for your spouse.

I read posts and statuses daily from others declaring the love of their significant other. Demanding attention and agreement from peers. While social media has given us so many things, it has taken away just as much. We have found ourselves living in a world where woman and men alike constantly defend their relationships and whether it’s genuine or not on Facebook. If you are constantly defending your spouse or proclaiming his love for you, you are not the problem. You are only half the problem. You should never defend his love for you. You should never have to convince another person, especially another woman of your mans love for you. That’s his job. If he can’t profess his love for you on his own, you don’t need him.

Social media has taken things that should be done behind closed doors, in the privacy of your home and your heart and put it out for the world to see. We have got to stop looking for instant gratification online and take it back where it belongs. Nine times out of ten, others are not sharing in your heartaches anyway. They are laughing at it. It’s a sad truth. We have become so accustomed to sharing all of our thoughts with our “followers” that we’ve begun giving away pieces of ourselves and our marriages.  Something’s just aren’t meant for the world. They are meant for two people. You don’t hide love, you can’t. For it is something that is seen by all. You don’t defend love, it defends itself.

Just a little food for thought. Instead of taking your precious time to convince others how happy you are and well your relationship is, disconnect from the social world and reconnect with the center of your world. Your husband (or wife of course).

Learning from the little people.

I’ve spent countless hours learning. Some in high school, some in college, and a lot in books. Funny, I’ve learned more as a teacher (to my own children) than as a student. Sometimes children have a way of showing you the things you never realized before or things you simply forgot. When your children speak, listen. You’re never too old to learn something and you will never know it all.

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Water Your Own Grass.

Instead of being envious of the neighbors grass and wondering how it became so green, water your own. Take the time to pull the weeds from your own yard and give it the attention it deserves. The results may just surprise you. It is much easier and cheaper to maintain your own yard than pay the price of buying another.