Do your children “live” where they live?

I’m curious how many people allow their children to actually live in their home.

If you come to my house, you will quickly realize that it isn’t spotless. I ask that you be understanding and see that I would rather lay in Chances’ floor reading books with him or CG’s room playing dolls. I grew up where everything had a place and you kept it all together, all the time. My kids? Well, by now you can probably guess that I’m a little more relaxed in that department. Sometimes, I just like to sit and watch them play. Wherever it may be.

If you can’t accept that two little people live here and share their toys with everyone, scattering them through the house, you wouldn’t make good company for us.

Why is it that the kitchen is the one place that can be cleaned 10 times a day and still be dirty? I am 90% finished cleaning our house yet random dishes make their way to the sink and clutter seems to migrate to the kitchen table. Where is it coming from???? I love a clean house, but I absolutely detest giving up time with my kids to clean it!

Legos, doll clothes, and puzzle pieces are among the most popular items this week. It can be challenging finding the balance between allowing your children to play freely and creating boundaries.

Children have their entire lives to have someone stand over them and dictate. I believe in cleanliness and teaching them to cleanup but this is their house. This is their home and they have the right to enjoy it like everyone else. I don’t tell my husband to play games on his phone in our room and practice his “duck calling” in his shed. He doesn’t tell me to read my kindle in our room so why should I confine our children to theirs?

Learning from the little people.

I’ve spent countless hours learning. Some in high school, some in college, and a lot in books. Funny, I’ve learned more as a teacher (to my own children) than as a student. Sometimes children have a way of showing you the things you never realized before or things you simply forgot. When your children speak, listen. You’re never too old to learn something and you will never know it all.

Face the journey.

Often times we get so caught up in trying to fix, explain, and resolve every little bump in the road that we loose our place in our journey. Life isn’t about correcting the wrong, or straightening the crooked. To put it simply, life is about living. You can’t live out your days trying to please those that aren’t happy. You just….live and you live to the best of your ability.

20140724-132042.jpg(Lords knows I’ve had more dogs than stones.)

People will come and people will go. Some stay longer than others and some always come back. The point is that fate will intervene and even when you feel like you are completely lost or alone, you will look up and realize it’s the road you’ve been looking for all along. The Lord will never forsake you.

Teaching love.

Life can be messy and sometimes we try so hard to instill certain values in our children that we force another belief on them completely. If I had one wish it would be that my children stay open to love and remain innocent on their views. I want to give my children love and teach them to form friendships with others based on character not color, and behavior not belongings. There is something so pure in the love of a child. They don’t care about materialistic things, how you look, or what shoes you wear. They like you and befriend you simply because they like you and that’s all that matters. We could all learn a little something from our kids….

Water Your Own Grass.

Instead of being envious of the neighbors grass and wondering how it became so green, water your own. Take the time to pull the weeds from your own yard and give it the attention it deserves. The results may just surprise you. It is much easier and cheaper to maintain your own yard than pay the price of buying another.